What You Need to Know When Complementing Someone Who Has Lost Weight: The Magic of Body Neutrality.

Understanding the Dynamics of Obesity

As a bariatric surgeon deeply invested in understanding the intricate dynamics of obesity and its impact on individuals, my interactions with patients provide invaluable insights into their journeys. The physical, emotional, and pathophysiological aspects of this disease cast a wide net of suffering that I am committed to addressing comprehensively.

A Transformative Conversation

In a recent discussion with a patient who had achieved significant weight loss, we uncovered unexpected dimensions of her transformation. Beyond the anticipated benefits like increased energy and improved work performance, she discovered a newfound joy in outdoor activities with her family. However, the focus of our discussion took an unexpected turn towards the impact of compliments, leading to the reflections shared in this article.

The Pitfalls of Conventional Compliments

“Our society often leans towards commenting on weight and appearance based on conventional beauty standards,” as emphasized by Sonya Renee Taylor, author of The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love. However, these well-intentioned remarks can have unintended consequences, as illustrated by my patient’s experience. Positive remarks became a constant reminder of the contrast between her past and present.

The Dual Perspectives of Weight Loss Attention

“In my years of practice, I’ve encountered individuals who relish the newfound attention that comes with weight loss,” says Rebecca Scritchfield, author of Body Kindness: Transform Your Health from the Inside Out–and Never Say Diet Again. “For them, the compliments and opportunities serve as a tangible reward for their hard work. Both perspectives are valid, and individuals should be free to embrace what brings them comfort and happiness.”

Navigating the Nuances of Compliments

Understanding the nuanced needs of those we interact with is essential, especially when offering compliments. The intention should always be to uplift, not inadvertently create discomfort. In the realm of bariatric surgery, where sensitivity to obesity is ingrained, extending this sensitivity to compliments is equally vital.

Embracing Body-Neutral Language

“To foster a more body-neutral and supportive environment,” recommends the Beauty Redefined organization, “consider the following 10 compliments that transcend physical appearance.” These body-neutral compliments are designed to acknowledge achievements and positive qualities beyond the external.

1. “Your dedication to your well-being is truly inspiring.”
2. “Your resilience in overcoming challenges is commendable.”
3. “I admire your commitment to a healthier lifestyle.”
4. “Your positive energy is contagious and uplifting.”
5. “You exude confidence and inner strength.”
6. “Your determination to prioritize self-care is noteworthy.”
7. “Your accomplishments reflect your hard work and perseverance.”
8. “The way you focus on your overall health is truly admirable.”
9. “I appreciate your positive influence on those around you.”
10. “Your journey showcases the transformative power of self-love.”

Conclusion

By embracing body-neutral language and drawing inspiration from various sources, we can create a supportive atmosphere that aligns with the diverse paths individuals take in their health journeys.